My ex tried to massage me once. He pinched my muscles so hard I got a muscle spasm. That painful flashback memory inspired this post. Lots of spas offer couples massage nowadays; however, if you prefer to have a couples massage at home, that’s cool too. Here are a few pointers for you—

Phase II: Intoxicate Your Partner

1.Don’t buy your massage oil at the dollar store. You’ll just give your partner a rash.

2. Set the mood. Dim the lights but not so dim you trip and fall over your partner. Light a few candles and have Barry White or Enya playing in the background.

3. Decide on a place. The bed is fine or you might use a table with padding. Whatever you use, make sure it’s stable enough to support your partner’s weight and you have room to maneuver.

4. Make sure the room temperature is comfortable. Think of your partner’s preferences, not yours.

5. Use the tips of your fingers or the heal of your hand and don’t pinch–rub and stroke the muscles. Imagine your hands skating across the body.

6. For the feet, try a moisturizing cream instead of an oil.

7. Warm your hands up before you begin massaging.

8. Pay attention to your partner. Ask him/her how it feels so you can adjust your technique.

9. Make sure your breath is fresh. If things go well this will be very important.

10. It’s customary to drink water after a massage, but since this is for Valentine’s Day you may want to try something bubbly like champagne.

A good massage can help with sexual healing of any old unwanted energy that is blocking your relationship so you want to get this right. Lastly, you know I can’t let you go without a recipe, so here you go—

Intoxicating Massage Oil

5 oz Carrier Oil (grape seed, jojoba, or almond)
5 drops Sandalwood
15 drops Ylang ylang
3 drops Black Pepper
2 drops Ginger

Mix all oils and add to the carrier oil. Shake well and warm the oil before massaging.